Clients, or at least dealing with clients can be tricky. I don’t session at all these days – it takes it too much out of me. Though, I never used to session often back when – I think I averaged 4 sessions a month on a good month. Why? My time and energy are precious so I treat it as such, after 12 years of chronic illness I’ve finally learnt that fact. I was also ill more often than not.
When I did session I developed a certain way of sessioning – a code of body kindness if you will.
First things first, type of client.
Clientele wise, I only took on clients that seemed affable. I could have taken on more clients, but I preferred a good gut feeling so I know that if worst comes to worst and I have to cancel they’ll be mostly okay with it. I also have an ‘in the unlikely event I have to cancel a new date shall be rearranged’ clause on all session requests. Also, if I did have to rearrange I used to add a little five-minute mini video or audio as a gesture of goodwill. Though, most of the clients were fine to change because I screened thoroughly and made sure to include being okay with a date change if needed.
Next, contingencies.
- Everyone, I sessioned with had to have an “easy” fetish. An ‘I could sit here and do nothing’ fetish. For example, foot worship, verbal degradation, being locked upright in a cage and taunted etc. That way if something were to happen mid-session with my health or I mentally froze they’d still get their kicks, and I got to recoup.
- Before the session, I wrote down a few ‘go-to’ lines on paper or on my phone. That way they could be incorporated if I panicked – see point one. I planned around a few easier fetishes and added more complex ones if I felt up to it.
- Music. I always had music. It was useful to have music as an excuse as if I needed to check my phone for the above. I could do so under the presence I want to change the track (though creating a playlist in advance is a good idea). Unless specified I always had the same sort of music so it helped my head slip into ‘badass bitch’ mode.
- Limit your session activities and work sessions around your comfort. Do things that come naturally. I refused, for the most part, to allow strap-on, face sitting, hand spanking activities because it expended too much energy. Since CBT, CP, and SPH all come naturally to me so I don’t have to be switched on as much.
- Create a cheat sheet. I highly recommend cheat sheets in all walks of life. For each client, I’d create no more than a revision card’s worth of notes: name, age, favourite fetishes, key phrases and such, that way I could refer to, like point number 1, if I got stuck mid-session.
Do you have any key tips for sessioning whilst disabled or chronically ill?
