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5 Common Misconceptions About DD/lg
Even among the BDSM community, there seems to be a divide on whether DD/lg and other Caregiver/little dynamics are harmless or ultimately unhealthy. It is taboo to so many people, primarily because there are lots of misconceptions about it. Before developing opinions about something, you always have to be well-informed first, so ask all the questions and do all the research.
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Kink & Chronic Pain
I’d estimate that I’m in pain about 80% of the time. I have hypermobile joints that often end up out of place, meaning that I spend the majority of my waking hours experiencing at least one nagging ache, if not multiple aches of varying severity. On my worst days, I struggle to walk normally, I can’t open bottles or undo buttons, and I cannot put the pain out of my mind. Except, well, with other pain. I’m a masochist, though it took me rather a long time to realise that. I was under the impression that masochists derive pleasure from…
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Navigating BDSM as a Survivor of Sexual Violence
I was kinky before I was a victim of sexual violence, and I am kinky now that I am a survivor. For whatever value I place on the “born this way” narrative (which is little), I believe I have always been kinky. It is an inherent part of my identity. You’ll understand, then, why it irks me so much (read: makes me want to light things on fire) when people inform me so helpfully that I am kinky because I was sexually abused.
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Thoughts from a novice kinkster.
Perhaps I should start with a little background to my journey into kink. I’m a middle aged, straight, working class man. I thought I was as vanilla as they come, but boy was I wrong! My journey into kink began with a cam site. I had used cam sites for a number of years until I became a regular of a particular lady who also happened to be a rather wonderful pro domme. And here is where I ‘lucked out’ as the Americans like to say. I think for a person with no previous experience of kink or the kinkster…
