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Kink & Chronic Pain
I’d estimate that I’m in pain about 80% of the time. I have hypermobile joints that often end up out of place, meaning that I spend the majority of my waking hours experiencing at least one nagging ache, if not multiple aches of varying severity. On my worst days, I struggle to walk normally, I can’t open bottles or undo buttons, and I cannot put the pain out of my mind. Except, well, with other pain. I’m a masochist, though it took me rather a long time to realise that. I was under the impression that masochists derive pleasure from…
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Navigating BDSM as a Survivor of Sexual Violence
I was kinky before I was a victim of sexual violence, and I am kinky now that I am a survivor. For whatever value I place on the “born this way” narrative (which is little), I believe I have always been kinky. It is an inherent part of my identity. You’ll understand, then, why it irks me so much (read: makes me want to light things on fire) when people inform me so helpfully that I am kinky because I was sexually abused.
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Thoughts from a novice kinkster.
Perhaps I should start with a little background to my journey into kink. I’m a middle aged, straight, working class man. I thought I was as vanilla as they come, but boy was I wrong! My journey into kink began with a cam site. I had used cam sites for a number of years until I became a regular of a particular lady who also happened to be a rather wonderful pro domme. And here is where I ‘lucked out’ as the Americans like to say. I think for a person with no previous experience of kink or the kinkster…
